Are you kidding me? It’s mid-August and summer is fading quickly. What happened to June? I vaguely remember celebrating Mother’s Day and enjoying the rising anticipation that accompanies the end of an academic school year. I must have blinked. In May, we composed a summer fun list. You know – the things we wanted to do while school was out, the weather was warm and the sun didn’t set until 9:30 PM. Now we’re facing the season of sunset and darkness at 5:45 PM and an early-bird dinner every night. Though it sounds romantic (or rugged, depending upon your perspective), there’s no way I could live full-time in Alaska. Cold and interminable darkness in the winter. Perpetual sunlight and giant insects in the summer. No wonder they pay people to live there. But, oh, what a view!
Now that summer is beginning to retreat, what’s on the horizon? August signals the resumption of school bells, increased traffic, choking smog, and the familiar rumble of school buses. Teachers report to classrooms with orders not to smile until Christmas. Many water parks and theme parks close for the season and landscaping companies hunker down for the lean months of dormant grass and hibernating customers. Personally, I look forward to the days when my Bermuda grass turns brown and I can store my lawn mower, unplug my hedge trimmer and enjoy a few days of semi-retirement away from the tyrants that proliferate in my yard.
Secretly, I enjoy the changing seasons. Others prefer a more consistent climate. Some believe the weather in San Diego is perfect. The thermometer hovers at a constant 72 degrees year round (that’s what I’ve heard) and Great White sharks only linger along Mission Beach and LaJolla in the winter. Perfect? Definitely awesome. But I’ve discovered a recurring anticipation that builds every August and seems to persist until all my warm weather clothes mysteriously disappear into the dark recesses of my closet, thereby yielding choice real estate to my long sleeved t-shirts and sweat pants. Meridith insists that this enigma is precipitated by the kick-off to football season. As usual, she’s right. Still, when I see the leaves beginning to turn bright red, yellow and orange, and I can see my breath as I stumble to the mail box, I know change is in the air.
All of this signals a common phenomenon. When we know with certainty that something is going to end – or change – we’re less affected by what we anticipate or experience. This perspective doesn’t eliminate our pain or sense of lose, but our capacity for understanding gives way to a growing acknowledgement regarding the temporary nature of what we currently experience. Ironically, this insight doesn’t diminish our gratitude, but rather increases our appreciation for those things and people we hold dear. Everything around us falls into the category of change and disintegration: dream houses fall into disrepair, prized cars require upkeep and maintenance, careers come to an end, books gather dust, dishwashers stop working, children graduate and move away, software systems become obsolete, and waist lines begin to expand (ugh!). With a fearful or frustrated resignation, we lament the progress of time and the culmination of the seasons.
Yes, football season begins in just a few weeks (more on that later). But as the whistle blows and our thunderous rhetoric replaces genteel conversation, the dog days of summer will give way to Labor Day weekend. And before you know it, we’ll be Christmas shopping. Think of all that will happen between now and then. Part of me wishes that summer would last 500 days. But the leaves would never change, my grass would grow year round (geez), Christmas would be sweaty, and the lifeguards would never have a day off. Change? Bring it on! I’m ready for some football!








